There is a saying, “Good boundaries make good neighbours.” (You will nod in agreement if you have ever had a neighbour or friend who drops in unannounced and then doesn’t leave.)
But it is also true that “Good boundaries make healthy relationships.”
So why is it that so often the boundaries become blurred when it comes to the people we love most?
How do I know if I have weak boundaries?
Do you find that you allow others to treat you badly? Do you say yes when you mean no? Do you tend to keep the peace instead of speaking your mind?
Or on the other side – do you have a tendency to cross the line? Do you ignore or override people when they say no to you?
Whichever end of the spectrum you may be on, the common result of an unhealthy boundary is emotional distance.
And when boundaries become blurred the effects on both individuals and on the relationship can be significant.
What can I do?
I frequently have people come in feeling unhappy, unsatisfied, anxious or even depressed. When we begin to explore what is happening in their life – very often the dreaded Unhealthy Boundaries Monster rears its ugly head.
But on the brighter side I have had the privilege of helping many people achieve a greater level of personal and relational happiness by discovering how to have and maintain healthy boundaries.
If you think this may be an issue for you, please feel free to call Deborah Sanasi on 0416 166 501 and book an initial consultation.
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We are situated in Lexington Drive, Bella Vista. Please feel free to contact Deborah Sanasi on 0416 166 501 to arrange an initial consultation.
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